The truth is, we left because of Judy's husband. He made me feel very uncomfortable and when I told him to stop, he continued. I did not want to hurt Judy, so I didn't tell her. I don't know what would have been best, but I know she loved him so much. All the while, he was trying to line up a new mate. He even went so far as to ask me if I still had a menstrual cycle. This was important because he wanted to have a son.

My brother told me it is the way of his culture. He is Vietnamese. He said they need a woman there to take care of them, even if it is a sister of their wife (even if it's their step-daughter). I know he was truly saddened when she passed. I wish he could have seen how wrong it was for him to act the way he did.

So, anyway, there it is. Alex had nothing to do with me leaving there. Linda, Wayne, Alex and myself all agreed that blaming it on him would be best. In hindsight, I wish I would have done things differently. I lost precious time with Judy and I let her down by leaving after I had promised her I would stay. I don't think she ever forgave me for that. And I don't think she looked at Alex the same after that. I can only hope that somehow she can now see that we love her very much.